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Big Sexy Chat Podcast
Inclusive Kink, Fat Pleasure, and Adaptive Sex Gear - with Sportsheets’ Rin Musick
In this juicy, gear-loving episode, Chrystal and Merf sit down with Rin Musick—award-winning road warrior, longtime adult retail expert, and current Brand Ambassador for Sportsheets. Together, they dive into fat-positive and accessible design in the world of BDSM and sex gear, including the now-iconic Plus-Size Doggy Style Strap and the groundbreaking Pivot Collection.
This episode is overflowing with laughs, sex-nerd joy, and real talk about body diversity, kink, and pleasure innovation for every body. Rin shares how Sportsheets is reimagining what inclusive intimacy tools can look like—and how fat folks, disabled babes, and kinky cuties are finally being centered in design.
🎁 Use code BIGSEXY20 at Sportsheets.com for 20% off your order!
Topics Covered:
- The story behind the Plus-Size Doggy Style Strap (and why it’s a game-changer)
- The Pivot Collection: positioning support for fat, disabled, aging, or tired bodies
- Designing sex gear for real bodies (no airbrushing here!)
- Why fat liberation and kink often go hand-in-hand
- Addressing ableism and sizeism in the adult industry
- Tips for finding inclusive play parties and navigating kink communities safely
- A few too-relatable tales of accidental anal, clapping bellies, and creative strap-on techniques
Featured Product Highlights:
- Plus-Size Doggy Style Strap
- Pivot Positioning Partner
- Convertible Toy Mount
- Deluxe Door Jam Sex Sling
- Saffron Strap-On Harness Collection
- Velvet Noir Nipple Suction Toys
Guest Links:
🌐 Website: Sportsheets.com
📸 Instagram: @sportsheets
📘 Facebook: Sportsheets International
📺 YouTube: Sportsheets Official
Listener Question:
Megan asked about finding non-fetishizing fat-friendly play parties. The hosts share tips for exploring local kink scenes, finding community via FetLife and Facebook groups, and understanding the culture of ethical non-monogamy and munches.
Don’t forget:
Fat joy is resistance—and we’re here for all the hot, affirming, body-inclusive pleasure you can find.
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Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off.
Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!
Hey all you hot babes out there. This week on Big Sexy Chat we're joined by Rin Music, brand ambassador for sports sheets and longtime adult retail powerhouse, to talk all things fat pleasure, accessible kink and the innovative tools that are changing the game for plus size and disabled bodies.
Speaker 2:Let's dive in for plus size and disabled bodies. Let's dive in. Hi, welcome to Big Sexy Chat. I'm Crystal, I'm Murph. We're just two rad fatties sitting around chewing the fat Twice a month. We'll be chatting about current events hot topics sex, sex toys, fat politics, fat community cannabis, cbd you name it. We're going to talk about it. We are very excited to have you a part of our community. Welcome and enjoy.
Speaker 3:Hey there, welcome back to Big Sexy Chat. I'm Crystal, I'm one of the hosts and we're with my lovely co-host, murph Hi, murph. It's been a little while for me. Murph, you guys y'all got to do an episode before while I was out, when you did your little shenanigans. They were hilarious and you guys were hi, yes, we were, I love it, I love it, I love it. And we're also really excited to say we have an extra special guest today. We have Rin from Sports Sheets and I'm sure, if you've listened to the show before, oh say hi, wren, oh hi, hi. If you've ever listened to the show before, you probably likely heard me rave about sports sheets. Only because well, not only because one of the main reasons, because, as far as I know, they're the first sex toy company to ever make something specifically for fat babes, and that was the plus size doggy style strap. What, yes?
Speaker 3:I know we love you. We love sports sheets, ren, and we love you too, and thanks for joining us today.
Speaker 5:Thanks so much for having me. I'm so stoked to be here. How long have you been with sports sheets?
Speaker 3:It's been about a year and a half now, Okay. Well, who were you with before?
Speaker 5:Because I know you've been in the adult industry, for in Columbus, Ohio. So shout out to my garden babes. The store is gone but the family lives and I've done everything from night clerk and stocking shelves to general manager and kind of steering the ship and adults where I'm supposed to be.
Speaker 3:I really believe that, yeah, it's a great industry, isn't it? It's so good.
Speaker 4:How did you make the jump from in the store to now with the product line?
Speaker 5:I you know a lot of. It was right place, right time. But I was very fortunate while I was in the store to make contact with some great folks in the industry. I made some really good friends. I was able to attend some trade shows and make kind of contacts and so I was like scheduling sport sheets and other companies to come into my store and do trainings and so when the store closed I had made just enough of the right connections that everybody's like well, what do you need? Send me your resume, how can I help? And sports sheets reached out and I really I feel so fortunate to have landed where I did. I did not want to leave adult at all and this is. It was such a logical next step and when I was in the store I love selling sports sheets so much that I was like, yeah, absolutely, I'm in, let's go. And here we go.
Speaker 3:For about 10 years, all I did were home parties. I owned a home party business called List Connection and then I had my store Curvy Girl and I would tell people, if you want to buy one of the best quality products, honestly, sports Sheets I trust them. Everything that they make is sewn and double sewn and triple stitched and it holds up to big bodies, holds up to laundry if you want to wash something, because sometimes things need a little bit of washing and I just think they make great quality products and I think, also very innovative products. And what do you think? Rin? Was Sportsheets one of the first ever companies to make something specifically for us fat babes?
Speaker 5:You know I don't have all of the information, but we're definitely early adopters. Sportsheets has been around since 1993. And out the gate we were innovating for inclusivity. The flagship product, our original sport sheet that I always have handy right with me, is completely customizable. You move around these like Velcro anchor pads so you don't ever have to like put your shoulder out of socket so that you can get your foot in there, and so, like, lowering that barrier to entry has been the goal from day one. So it is no surprise to me that we were early, if not first adopters in the plus size space.
Speaker 3:I know Murph you had. A long time ago you had written a blog about the plus size doggy style strap right.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I mean, when we saw it come out, um, and it was, it seemed like the first product designed for fat bodies. Um, when we saw that it had come out and crystal was advertising that the shop had it, we drove from above sacramento down to san jose to pick it up and, um, that was our anniversary present to each other. And we came home and we tried it and I loved it. You did too, but I loved it.
Speaker 4:And so I wrote a little blog about it. I don't I don't know if it's still up anymore.
Speaker 3:I don't think you have that URL anymore, or if you did, I know it got. At one time it was on my blog and I was linking. I think it was a dead link or something, yeah.
Speaker 4:But yeah, I mean, it was like holy crap, this is a product made specifically for our body type, like we've got to try it out and yeah, loved it and have loved everything since I really appreciate that on the packaging. Now that there are plus size bodies and that has been a big, like walking into a you know, a sex store and being able to see something that visually represents me maybe not perfectly, but definitely different from what you're normally seeing.
Speaker 4:I, I just love it the whole april flores, you know hello right yes, the images are so great and I really like the new packaging too. The new packaging is definitely cool. It has kind of like like a younger generational vibe kind of thing, which I get. But yeah, just seeing that black and knowing like that sleekness, and then the April Flores, I was just like this brand is so chic.
Speaker 5:Yes, yes, I love when you can have packaging that represents as many types of people, of bodies as possible. Then that just ups that likelihood that somebody is going to see themselves in your product even before. So, even if it wasn't the right and logical thing to do from a business perspective, it just makes sense to put different kinds of bodies on there because we want as many people as possible to say, hey, that looks like me, I could use this product, this is for me and I absolutely love that. And yeah, the fat bodies on our packaging are just absolutely stunning. One of my favorite things and I loved this even in the store before I was selling sports sheets myself. But we don't airbrush for flaws. We obviously edit for lighting, for content, but we are not like if our model has a lump, has a bump, has a flab, that's staying, because that is what a person looks like.
Speaker 4:Absolutely, and I really appreciate when I this industry is so much about like the aesthetic of you know the porn star kind of thing, so to to actually see something that represents your body. It's like the whole new sexual exploration world sort of thing opens up. Because then it's like, wait, I've never been able to do these products because you know, it doesn't go to my size limit or it doesn't go around my hips or whatever it may be, and so then, seeing that, it's like, oh well, maybe that will work, you know. And then you pick up the box and, oh, up to 350. Okay, okay, you know like there's some real significance to that.
Speaker 3:I agree. Well, us fat babes have money and we want to spend it and we want to buy really cool, amazing sex toys and sex furniture and all the things that other people love and want, and so the adult industry is leaving a lot of money on the table, if I'm being really honest our bodies were shamed and hidden and like ignored for a really long time and we've grown up and into this space of acceptance fat acceptance and ability acceptance and so we are unlearning and we are changing.
Speaker 5:The amazing thing is that those that are coming after us so I 've never really had to walk into a space and be like, well, I think that could work for me. Well, if I get two of those, I can hook them together and make it work for me, or if I'm really careful with the way I lean my body, then I won't put too much weight on and it won't break. And that is just on its way out. And I am so stoked for the people that are coming along that just won't have to walk into a store and be like well, I don't think there's anything actually here for me at all.
Speaker 3:It's the worst feeling. It sucks, just like man. But yeah, that's kind of why we talk about this a lot, why we do what we're doing with our podcasts is we just help one fat person out there to hear like, oh, it is possible, it's also possible to overcome all the trauma that we've all lived through. And it's also possible to overcome all the trauma that we've all lived through.
Speaker 3:And it's also possible that you might not have any, because I I noticed that the younger generation, they don't give a fuck it's not even a little bit not even a tiny bit, and they're just so open-hearted and open-minded and I'm excited for what's to come because, yeah, us early adopters yeah, yeah, we had to fight a few battles. But when you go back to your people, rin, let them know that we have a lovely fat following and we have a lot of fat friends, and I know Murph and I both are kind of snobs I don't know if that's the right word but we appreciate really good products and we appreciate products and companies that make products for us, like Sports Sheets. So, thank you, thank you to the people who are whoever did design this in the early days. And let's talk a little bit about the doggy style strap and why we love it. And, brynn, could you maybe just describe it to the audience who are watching us on YouTube?
Speaker 5:Yeah, absolutely. And for those that are, I do happen to have one handy so we can talk about it. So a docky style strap is a wide band. Ours is covered in a soft, moisture protective kind of material. It's not officially waterproof but it can take some moisture for sure. They are usually padded. This one in particular is reinforced across the back with canvas strapping. There's going to be straps on either end. Ours are adjustable so you can extend that length a little bit more or bring it in for control and comfort. The padding is really clutch I think, clutch I think.
Speaker 5:And what's so fun about this is it's called a doggy style strap and it is awesome for that purpose. But like, there's a billion and one ways to use this thing. One of my favorite things is you can take it. If you put it under your thigh, you can hold your leg up over to the side, so you've got a little bit of support, especially like my big old thighs are just in the way sometimes and in my old age, like I'm bendy but not I don't have the stamina that I used to right Like my leg will go over there but it's not going to stay there like at all. Have that little bit of extra support, or one of my favorite ways to use this is to put it under a partner that I'm riding on top of and I can use the straps as handles to bring them to me yeah so
Speaker 5:then my hips not going to pop out of place, you're not going to get all that weird cramping because you're not having to like try to smash yourself to them, bring them to you, and it gives you just a lot more control and stability.
Speaker 5:But when you do use this the traditional way meaning there's a person behind you who has the strap around your front, it's going to be kind of in your tummy area. This is really great to lift and support apron bellies, which I love, because sometimes it's just uncomfortable. It's not even if they're in the way. It's just uncomfortable to be in that position and they're hanging and it's heavy. It's not even if they're in the way. It's just uncomfortable to be in that position and they're hanging and it's heavy. And when you do get that popped up under your tummy it's actually going to help tilt the vaginal canal. So you're going to get a deeper penetration. You're much more likely to hit that G spot and you're going to be able to control your angle just better than probably your body can do on its own. I know mine does not.
Speaker 3:Can I just insert one other thing that maybe you've noticed, but maybe you don't have it verbalized. But if you have a hanging tummy and inner thighs and it starts moving back and forth, you're getting the clapping sound and sometimes air gets trapped in there, which sounds like you're farting. So, when you use the doggy style strap, that goes away and you know. Okay, sometimes we're going to fart during sex. Nobody wants to. But like that wasn't me, that's my tummy.
Speaker 5:Like no, really that was my butt and I think, as secure with our bodies as we can be and as in love with our bodies as we can be, I don't think that it matters what size your body is. When your body does a weird thing, it feels weird and it takes you out of that moment and for us, with all of that trauma coming from all of these years, it can kind of ruin that moment too and it can just take you completely out of it. And now you're just not having fun anymore because that's triggered a thought. And now you're spiraling, triggered a thought, and now you're spiraling so, like, if we can mitigate that in any kind of way, and the doggy style strap is such a like, easy and affordable way to do that and it's so like small. It folds all the way down.
Speaker 5:This will go in like most purses. If you've got your sweet janko jeans, you can put them in the skateboard pocket. It's so portable. You can do 101 different things with this and that's what I love about that product and I like being able to just kind of think of other ways I can use this, especially in 2025, everything costs a million dollars and these are let's be honest, I mean, they're luxury items, right, nobody needs this to live. And these are let's be honest, I mean, they're luxury items, right, like nobody needs this to live. So if there's a butt weight, there's more moment. If it can do more than one thing, then it's just value and value and value. And our plus size strap is designed specifically with fat bodies in mind and I don't have the length on it, but it is, I think, think about 30 percent longer than the smaller version yeah that first version and then, um, and it's wider as well.
Speaker 5:So there's a lot of sturdy support and that padding was really everything it helps with, like the sweat, the tummy sweat and all that I love it.
Speaker 3:Yeah, um, one thing I can say that I used to always talk about this a lot. One of the things I like about it is that when the person behind you has a good grip on you, you can't like get away. I'm using air quotes, but if you're like in your brain a little bit, you can kind of start thinking that way, like oh, we just have to sit here and take this right, which is kind of hot, and you know, of course you could get away because of course, but it kind of feels like you can't. So it's kind of more exciting and like adds a lot of energy to the whole situation.
Speaker 5:Absolutely, and I love a safe foray into when you start playing with BDSM things and things that you don't necessarily think of as restraint where you're like yes, this is support for doggy style, which is pretty standard, fucking right at this point, like that's a, that's a classic move, everybody's doing it, but it is a restraint. They do have control over whether you can go or stay and, of course, you're with a partner that you trust and you are in a safe place, but you can kind of let yourself run away with that a little bit and wriggle and giggle, which is always fun.
Speaker 3:Exactly so, true, and when I was smaller, my hips were smaller, my partner could get both of his hands in one and make it to one strap. And so because people say, oh, but I really like when my partner touches my hips or squeezes my fat, oh, yeah, me too. But you know, there's all kinds of trial, kinds of different things, and sometimes he would get both hands in one and still be able to grab my chunk with his right hand, and you know, also the warmth of his skin feels great and um. So I understand that. But also, you'll be creative. There's all kinds of ways you can do both or none, or all of the above absolutely.
Speaker 4:That's. One thing that I found, you know, when I wrote that blog, was that there'd be so many guys that would be like well, I don't need that. You know, I I like to grab them by the hips, and but sometimes, first of all, that's not always comfortable, especially when you're putting pressure, like if you're leaning on somebody, um. But one thing that I think is really kind of undersold about it is that when you're using it, there's more um, there's more compression against your vaginal canal because it's pulling up and together.
Speaker 4:So when you're doing doggy style don't get me wrong, doggy style is great on its own, but sometimes the focus can be solely on the pleasure of the woman in that position or the receiving partner I shouldn't say woman but it creates, it's like it creates that pressure and it's just, it's a different experience. Like you said, it's not something that it's like you don't have to have it, it's a luxury, but it's just like, if it can add a little something, whether that be the kink of like, oh, hey, I can't get away, or hey, I'm like a horsey, or whatever. I think that the you just just have to have that conversation with people of like this is not just the basics here we're talking about. You're using a tool to get creative.
Speaker 5:Absolutely, and you know it's not always possible for that gifting partner to hold on to your body in that way, or your body may not be able to be held with hands like that, or your grip or your sensitivity level. So this kind of adds a little bit of extra support to like, the gripping and the holding. And, yeah, if you loop it around your wrists, you can just get your hands in there and do what you got to do and still be making it happen, which I, yeah, you know for anything. If there is a tool to make it better or easier or cooler, like I want to try it.
Speaker 3:I'm just going to say two words that do not go great together in my mind but accidental anal Yikes.
Speaker 3:So, I can tell you that in my experience that is really uncomfortable. In fact my body might have broken out into a little bead of sweat in every single pore of my body at that same second. If you could have. You're kind of with the strap, you're kind of more together, so like you're not going to get off the beat, so to speak. You know it's probably less likelihood of that. Now I think the words accidental anal are great words for a name of a band, but not in the bedroom.
Speaker 5:Accidental anal are great words for a name of a band, but not in the bedroom. Accidental, most anything is not great, but I think it comes to sex typically. It's funny because I think, when something weird happens, like, I think a very like classic reaction is like my butt puckered right, like well and so like. If the butt is the problem, what do you? Pucker your whole rest of yourself.
Speaker 3:Basically. Yes, every pore on my body, absolutely, it's hot, it hurts. You don't know what to do. You can't figure out what happened. It's like it's like panic sets in. It's not fun, right.
Speaker 5:Well, I'm like when you've got like your cheeks kind of squished together, like that really just like it looks so good, like you get that good heart shape going, and then like, uh, you know, so the view is extra spectacular. It's always good. Now it's great, like yeah, every, everything is better with a little bit of fun and tool and engagement and creativity, yeah.
Speaker 3:So y'all have it for sale on sportsheetscom, and I always want to put two s's in there, but sport it's sport with no s. Then sheetscom and y'all offered our listeners and our audience a code for 20 off. It's just big sexy. Two zero twenty. I don't remember how much this one costs, though, but is it under forty dollars, ish, somewhere in there?
Speaker 5:yeah, under, and I will actually look that up for you right now while I'm thinking about it.
Speaker 3:So sportscheatscom and then BigSexy20, BigSexy20 for 20% off on all of your items right. On everything.
Speaker 5:That's exactly right Right now on our website that plus-size doggy style strap is listed at $24.99. And you get 20% off with that big sexy 20 code.
Speaker 5:hello, you gotta have it yeah that's a, that's a no-brainer yeah, you need it in the toolbox yeah, and I do want to mention too that, um, everything that we make that doesn't have a battery in it, so everything, except, I think, three things. Um has a limited lifetime warranty, so shy of running it over with the car or letting the dog chew on it. Something goes wrong. People have the hardware, the stitch pops, something like that. It's really easy to get it replaced, no problem, because we want you to have that forever. So that lifetime warranty is worth well more than $24.99 for sure.
Speaker 3:Murph, did you notice? The newer version that we just all bought has these like plastic handles on them. Yeah, Unique?
Speaker 4:huh, it is, and it seems, with the X on the back of like the strapping, that it's going to hold more. I'm really excited to try it. Plus, wren, you mentioned it, but on that box, on the new product box, it shows that you can put it underneath your partner in a missionary position and I was like what? I never even thought about that. So I'm definitely trying that and using it like a saddle where you can hold on to it. That sounds fun.
Speaker 5:Yeah, that one with the X, with the cross straps for support. That's under our pivot collection. And pivot is all about position support and body support. And that whole collection is saying for fat bodies, for differently abled bodies, for I mean literally, if you are young and spry and you have all of your stamina and all of your bendiness, I'm so stoked for you. You can have a lot of fun with the pivot collection. But for me and my old age and my fat body and my bad back and everything else I'm, pivot is so much fun to mix and match and build something to support your body for whatever you're trying to accomplish, whether it's solo play or with a partner or partners.
Speaker 3:There's so much you can do and that Pivot collection is just fantastic for all of that Give us the most amazing, unique idea for ways you might use this, and maybe we could give one away, or two away. It'd be fun if people would write in and tell us like, maybe I'll try it like this. Sorry, just building this idea just kind of coming to me at the second. But what I was going to say, though, is, if I know, us fatties get left out a lot, but people with disabilities their bodies are otherly abled, I forget how you say it, but they really get left out of the discussions about sex toys and things like that, and I know there are a few companies that are really looking at that, and I know that Sports Sheet does too. But yeah, I mean I feel for the people, because I know nobody's really designing things for them or marketing to them very, not very often anyway.
Speaker 5:I agree, I agree, and you know, the fact is that the vast majority of people will not have a 100% able body for the entirety of their life. Every single person, as you age, just aging alone, just the fact that you continue to exist on this planet, will change the level of ability in your body, your body. So A you might be as fit and flexible and have all of the stamina in the world, and that could change in an instant. It could change over the course of five years. There's so many things that happen with bodies and we believe pleasure is a birthright and pleasure is for every single body, at every angle.
Speaker 5:And that's really why I love Pivot, specifically for that, because not only are we making products that are helpful, but we are gearing those two folks that need a little bit of extra support or didn't realize what they could do with a little extra support, because sometimes it's just inspirational and you're like, oh, I never thought that I could like get my knees behind my ears anymore, but with, like, the pivot positioning partner, which is, um, it's a pillow with, like an attached adjustable trussing system that you can adjust all by yourself. Um, there's thigh straps in it and my thighs are, I think, 32 inches around, so good and meaty, nice and juicy. And I fit in those thigh straps with room to move, so they are very forgiving size-wise and you can literally pull the straps, put your knees almost behind your ears and not use any of your own muscle power. You're just there and it's a quick release. You can get right out when you're ready, but it's the pivot positioning partner and that is so much fun, because I didn't even know I could still do half that stuff.
Speaker 3:Is that the one that kind of has like a pillow that goes under your neck? And then because I have talked about this on the show before too, it's really nice. If it's that one with the pillow under your neck, then you could put your feet ankles into the straps. For those of you who can't keep your legs up in that position, for you know half an hour anymore.
Speaker 3:It keeps them up in the air for you. It's like your neck and your back are kind of like holding it. It's like giving you extra. I'm waving my arms around. You know, people can't see us, but it's. Yeah. What is that one called? That's not called.
Speaker 5:It's a pivot positioning partner. Okay, I, that's the pivot positioning partner.
Speaker 4:Okay, I think previously, though, it was called like the sex sling, or something oh yeah, it used to be.
Speaker 5:There was like a tat, it was something tethered sex. Yeah, I think that you're right. When I was at fat con.
Speaker 3:I had people demonstrate the sling with the pillow in the back and they had and we had a very, um, all varieties of sexuality and, you know, gender expression. So I had all kinds of different people in different bodies and different sexualities or expressions and they were all having a good time with it. It's they're like oh my God, I can keep my legs in the air. Yes, you can. It's the. I don't know about getting my knees back. I don't know if I could ever do that.
Speaker 5:You can.
Speaker 4:I believe that you can. I believe that you can. If you believe you can, I get pretty damn close in that sex sling and I love it, I just feel it. It takes so much pressure off of your body and, you know, when you were waving your arms, all I could think of was kind of like you're like an x, but you can like use it to like pull up and the straps will cinch you so that your legs go up, um, you know, a little bit higher than normal. And, oh my God, like I'm so glad that you continued that through the pivot line because, um, that's one that every fat body I talked to. Those are the two things the doggy style strap and the sex sling, because they're so accommodating to different body types.
Speaker 3:Murph, can I just ask you one personal question? I know I can, yeah, so for me to use it, I either have to be like my butt is like right on the edge of the bed, my big big mattress and then or maybe on the couch. But I have have to, so he can kind of be at the edge of the bed and then I'm like right there but I have to kind of like throw my legs back and then then I could stay there for a long time.
Speaker 4:but it's the first time I have to like whoosh you definitely have to have a little bit of let me get into this and you know, wiggle, you know and get your body correct. But yeah, it's exactly, I think it's the edge of the bed has been the most successful in terms of just like, being able to really like, because I think of both of those objects as like it's a much more forceful sexual experience, like you're really like, using a lot of thrusting, you're using intensity. Yeah, it's more intense.
Speaker 3:I like intensity.
Speaker 4:Yeah, lot of thrusting. You're using intensity. Yeah, it's more intense like intensity. Yeah, um, and so the edge of the bed. I think on either one of those you're gonna get probably the best of that angle, um, but yeah, you could use it for so many things for sure I honestly get in mine sometimes just to stretch my body.
Speaker 5:I sit in this chair. I work from home and then when I'm not working from home, I'm usually traveling. I'm on airplanes and I am a fat person on a plane and that is its own special hell sometimes, and sometimes like my bones just need to like be completely and it's like traction. You know it's so good, but you know, while that is super fun and awesome at the edge of the bed if you add in one of the wedges, so that's the pivot positioner.
Speaker 5:The pivot positioner plus is 24 inches wide and 30 inches long. It is about as wide as I am and nearly as tall at 5'3", so it's very comfortable. It's a super high-density foam and it's a wedge. It's like a ramp right so you can get on that with your head at the lower end and then you can be on the bed and fully supported as well, so you don't have to go all the way to the edge of the bed and have your partner be standing. They can't absolutely be kneeling in front of you. If you get that little, get your butt in the air?
Speaker 4:yeah, absolutely. I had a friend that said um, like the traction from it. She was like I can fall asleep in this thing. I was like seriously, like sometimes I'm just like just leave me in it so I can just like hang for a minute. That's kinky, that sounds like fun right, safe, sane and consensual?
Speaker 3:absolutely rin. What does the creative team look like? What is the creative process at Sports Sheets? Do they have whiteboards, chalkboards, people, computers? Let's get together and talk about how to make cool things for fat babes and for people with disabilities and for other people. How does that work?
Speaker 5:It's kind of all of that. If I'm being honest, we're actually a very small company. I think there's something around 20 people that work for Sports Sheets and that's from the owners, like the warehouse. There are very few of us there's about 10, roughly of us that are involved in the design process. So we're a small team, which means that we work very closely to each other.
Speaker 5:So there's chat groups that are just like ideas, where literally somebody will just drop a picture or like a screen grab from a tv show or, um, you know a model or something that is like inspirational to them and it's like, hey, I saw this and it made me think that we could. But, and so those conversations are ongoing. It is every day that we're talking about one thing or the other, and then those all get kind of funneled into okay, what's the next thing? So we've got an idea for our next collection, right? So we know what the mood of it is, what the vibe, what the aesthetic is. Now let's go back to this list of ideas. What of this can we make real in this collection? And so there's always this like it's like a circular motion, because once we so we've had this idea and then we made this thing and now we've made it and it's in the world and, oh my God, we can actually make that even better and we can make that usable by more people. We can make this more accessible. So it is a constant process of innovation and I think the small team really lends itself well to that, because we're really very close and so we're chatting all day, all the time, and it also means that everyone feels very safe and is very safe to have real conversations about these things, and I have been welcomed beautifully at that table to where I can go into a meeting and say that is a beautiful idea and I could never, ever use it. And here's why. And those things are being considered and those things are.
Speaker 5:You know, there are sometimes there are just material or design limitations, there are just things that it can't be perfect all of the time, but we are looking for all of the ways to make it as best as we can and we're always looking to make it better. Next We'll do it again, you know, and you'll see through the sports sheets catalog and I think we're at like 400 SKUs, something like that. So we have a huge catalog and there's a lot of. We like to call it good, better, best. So you're going to see some products in different collections in different lengths or materials and you can kind of see that evolution of that product.
Speaker 5:Where the under the bed restraint system is a Sportsheets original product, we invented that whole idea of just the straps that go under the mattress and come around and hook on, and so we've got a very simple and budget-friendly version in our Sex and Mischief collection with the bed-bound restraint, the classic under-the-bed restraint. And then we go up into the special edition restraint, which was actually designed specifically for fat bodies with a little bit more sturdy stitching and tougher materials and just to make sure that those of us that are putting a little bit of extra poundage and wear and tear on that are going to be able to do so comfortably always. So we're always thinking about ways to make that better and usable by more people.
Speaker 3:Brynn, would you share our two blogs with your team the one where we surveyed fat babes and then the one that Ashley most recently written about how to use and how to masturbate and all kinds of things in a body who's fat or has disabilities. Share that with both of those with them, please.
Speaker 5:Yeah, of course.
Speaker 3:Of course.
Speaker 5:And I think that when you originally sent them to me I did pass them on. But I'll pass them back just to be sure they stay top of mind. Yeah they're both on the blog.
Speaker 3:I think they're our first, our last, the last two blogs we've written about are those two, I'm pretty sure. So yeah, like I said, we did survey our community about what we need. And then one last question can the doggy style strap be made any longer? Because I was like, couldn't there just be a little more strap material there? Just might make it for people who are a little bit even bigger than I am. Let's say, someone wears a size, I wear a size 30, but Elaine Bryant goes up to size 40. I don't know, can that be added more easily or easily?
Speaker 5:Oh, absolutely Absolutely, and that is that, and a lot of innovation and expansion is on the table. You know, I like I love having conversations like this because that is just like more backup for me, instead of me going to the table and being like make it for me. You know, it kind of sometimes feels a little bit like I'm being like a little bit trying to be a little spoiled, like well, I want this for me, like a little bit trying to be a little spoiled, like well, I want this for me. But to hear it from other voices in, um, you know, the more requests we get for it, the more likely it is that it's going to become reality. Well, we are we are.
Speaker 3:Believe me, we're 70 of the population right, yeah, that's.
Speaker 5:We're well more than half of the american population and a huge slice of our demographic right, I mean.
Speaker 5:BDSM. I don't know if you are involved in your local kink scene, but I will say there's quite a few fat people I mean. I feel like it's an even more like a bigger piece of that community, because we have found this confidence kind of in support in that community. So I think BDSM should be serving fat people as much as possible. And believe me when I say when I'm at that table I am demanding, nicely, gently, for these things to happen. And everyone has been so accommodating and there have been suggestions that I have made over my last year and a half that have made it into the products that went to the marketplace. And there are things that I want to do in the future and I can tell you about some of them off the record, but I have ideas, I'm trying to make things happen, but my personal agenda is not always priority or whatever, but I love the, the strap-on series that you have, and I had one previously.
Speaker 4:I didn't take care of it, I fell apart, but that had been like a decade. But I saw that you guys have the saffron collection. So I'm like, oh, it'll match the sex sling and the cuffs and all the things. So I'm like, okay, I think I'm going to have to spend some money and give this a try. But yeah, I mean, I think the kink community, your products, really serve such a great purpose in the sense of different materials, right, like some people like the leather feel, some people like that vinyl, some people like the microfiber, so I mean there's so much variety in that.
Speaker 4:And then you talk about, okay, you're doing this for different bodies, different styles, different angles, different abilities. It's so cool because in the kink community I think, like you said, there's such a presence of not only fat bodies but differently abled bodies, and then everyone has their own thing when you get into kink and the stuff that I see that's most universally used is sports sheets. It's like the pillows, the, the pillows, the um attachments, the cuffs, the, all the little things, the, the accoutrement. I guess you would say I love an accoutrement and I, you know, I think that that's a niche community that you all do such a great job serving because, um, you know, there's there's a lot of stigma when it comes to kink. There's a lot of um layers, I guess is what I'm thinking of is like layers of different different issues that impact so many different people. So when you have an opportunity to have a line like that, um, it really does give a whole variety of sexual exploration tools to an individual.
Speaker 3:I always say the kink community is very body accepting. They're very, I'm sure I know there are some elitists, but in general they're pretty open to different body shapes and sizes and ages and colors and all that good stuff.
Speaker 5:I think there's a good amount of crossover in that Venn diagram, really, because I think that kink is so often trauma-informed and is therapeutic on a lot of levels, and especially when you get in a really great dynamic with excellent communication between two partners that really care about taking care of each other in the ways that they need to be cared for. And I think that that Venn diagram, with the trauma of existing in a fat body or a less abled body and trying to feel sexy and trying to experience pleasure in a world that isn't necessarily is it built for you, and so much of the world in the big scale is not built for me, and so if I can control this part of my life, you know. So I think that you do find a place that you can feel safe and you can feel comfortable and I think that, like that, I love that cross, that cross in the Venn diagram where we are fat and we are kinky and we are having a good time and I use a mobility device and I'm still taking it. Yes, I think it's people that need community and need safety and need comfort and I think that those groups kind of just tend to find each other in that way and I love it, love it, love it. But you did mention our strap-on harnesses and I did want to say that of our 400 or so SKUs, about 30 of them are strap-on harnesses. So it's like 10% of what we do. And I have said in the past, if you put me in a room with 100 lesbians and first of all, thank you. Second of all 90 of them their first strap-on was a sports shoe strap-on. Their current strap-on is a sports shoe strap-on.
Speaker 5:I think that in an industry where there isn't a ton of brand loyalty, I think most people go into, like your sex shop and you're trying to get the thing that does the thing, and most people aren't really thinking about who made it. They're coming in and they're saying I want the rose. Well, there's 40 manufacturers that make a rose. I don't care, I want the one that I can afford that does the thing I want it to do. But when we're talking about strap-ons and wearables, I think Sportsheets does have name recognition, where other vendors or manufacturers don't necessarily. But our original quote-unquote strap-ons do fit up to a 60-inch hip and that is very close to a real 3X, not a lingerie 3x. I have to be clear about that. I wear a 22-24 and a 3x most of the time and I can, most of the time, use our original standard size small size straps the ones that are labeled curvy fit a 72-inch hip.
Speaker 3:I just saw the curvy divine. That's beautiful, gorgeous.
Speaker 5:Absolutely gorgeous and so many materials and we do try to be. You know, we try to put in different designs. There's some that have a little bit of back support, there are some that are just pretty, there are some that are just straps, there are some that are more sturdy. There's a high-waisted corset design that is in that 60-inch hip size and I am hoping someday, across everything, that we can get that in the curvy line because it is absolutely stunning and it's so supportive, so sexy. But I love being able to say to a person that looks like me you don't have to buy the curvy one, like we don't have, you know, because 60 inches is close to that average. So we talk, you know 70 percent of people, most people look like me. So, um, I love the, just the accessibility of that, the inclusivity of it, to not have to go in and buy the one in the you know the specially labeled boxes, like a little bit of a, a little boost sometimes you look medical sometimes like oh sorry, sexy yeah and yeah, so so much the time, though, like, as we make things larger and then they get, like I don't know, they get ugly
Speaker 5:but that is not the case here we are making it. We want you to look and feel as sexy as possible in our garments and I do also want to mention that if you do have a smaller body than is like the, basically the outside measurement of any of our strap-ons, sometimes those straps can be kind of a pain. Right, they like trail. You get the streamers, you can trim those, trim those straps, melt the ends, hit it with like a lighter candle that's going to stop it from fraying and that is not going to void your warranty. Because we want you to be comfortable. Yeah, we want you to be comfortable, we want you to use it. And then we know that maybe you've had it for three years and you blew a rivet, something happened and we're still going to replace that. So we want you to. We don't want you to wrap it in plastic in case you have to return it Like that's absolutely no, that's so against the point. Please use it.
Speaker 4:That's fantastic, because, yeah, those streamers are no joke. Yeah.
Speaker 3:We've had a couple of people on our show talking about that. We're teaching us kink stuff, burning the edges, and so they don't fray, and all that fun stuff. It's like, okay, whole other world for me. So tell us, what else would you recommend for us fat babes, or us fat sexy babes?
Speaker 5:I have to tell you my most favorite thing that we make period and I've been like waiting for you to ask me so that I could show you because it is so good. So this is the Pivot Convertible Toy Mount. So in the world, toy mount pillows exist. They're usually kind of like a hump shape and it's usually like a even all over shape. It's a symmetrical hump right With a hole of one size that's at the top, and so if your toy doesn't fit in there, then I guess it's not for you. Or if your body doesn't get up on top of that hill, it's not for you. And also, what do you even do with it when you're not using it, right? So we have made a convertible version of that. So this actually comes as two pillows and, for those of you that can't see it, they look kind of like car headrests and they are hill-shaped, but the slope is different on either side. So you've got a steeper slope and a less steep slope.
Speaker 5:This comes as two pillows and you can see with that Velcro straps, you can use these separately for neck support, back support. I actually love these as knee pads If you use them separately. If you're on top, put this on either side of your partner. It's gonna give you some height, it's gonna really help with that cramping, with that stamina, so it gives you just a little bit more comfort. There's two covers on here. They both zip off for cleanliness. You can throw it in the washer and then, if you want to use it as a toy mount, you kind of put them together into this taco shape. And there are all these included Velcro straps, so you you can take your toy, put any dildo, vibrator, wand, a masturbator if you have a penis thrusting anything, you can put that anywhere in that 180 degrees, so anywhere that's comfortable for your body. I'll find the strap and I'm going to show you because it I would it's so good.
Speaker 5:I'm usually really good at doing this one-handed, but not today. So there's two straps that go on either side, that kind of mash the taco together, right. And then you've got the smaller straps for security so you make like an X around your toy. So then that is like I did this really quickly. So it's probably not as sturdy, but that's really in there really quickly. So it's probably not as sturdy, but that's really in there.
Speaker 5:So for solo play time, you can get up there and do what you need to do, what you want to do, have the time of your life. You can add a second toy, bring a friend to the party. This is great for solo play. This is great for adding a second penetrator without having to bring in a whole other penis to the party. If you put like a thrusting toy in here, it's like a fuck machine on a budget.
Speaker 5:This msrp, I think this is under 150 dollars. It's so versatile, it does a billion and one things and when you're not using it for sexy time it's still useful and it doesn't look like a sex thing, right, so like if it's on your bed or if you lay it flat. The two pieces they'll fit in a regular size pillowcase. I actually really like it together in the hill shape, and I will lay at night with my legs up and over it, like during my doom scrolling time, and so it just gives a little bit like height and comfort. You can use this to bend over for doggy style. There's like it's so versatile and so useful, and I am personally obsessed with this item. I had no idea I got to get this one.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 5:Yeah, this is my favorite thing, and this memory foam that it's made of is so dense and it is Velcro compatible, so if you have, like the anchor pads from your sport sheet, you can throw those on there and you can be tied to it. Um, if you have our three-in-one play pad, you can add an extra toy to it. There's like just a billion and one ways to use this, and it's so discreet and useful outside of sexy time.
Speaker 3:Great job. Sports sheets I love you. Sports sheet, thank you, so you can use that.
Speaker 5:You can put your hitachi in there, absolutely, and that's what's really nice about it is and the bottom is open because you've put two pillows together. So if he's got like the corded version it's not going to jam your cord all up. You could literally put the largest toy so like it's much more flexible and versatile than your standard like fixed hole for like a wand or a whatever you can put, anything you could put as many things as you can get in there brilliant, brilliant that's so cool.
Speaker 3:Would you try that murph, was it?
Speaker 4:oh fuck, yeah, yeah, I'm gonna be using our code because I want that saffron strap on, uh, and and now this, like I I'm sure'm going to have to go through the entire line and just look. I mean, when we went to the trade show and got to see, you know just the whole setup, I was just like, can this just be my bedroom? Like just, you know, have all the racks with all. There was so much good stuff that's what my office looks like.
Speaker 5:I love it. I finally refer to it as our East Coast warehouse because I live in Columbus. So you know, as we develop new products and as new things come out, they send it to me and I have it because I need it for my job and so I just have like shelves and shelves and shelves.
Speaker 3:I always tell them when I go to the house or store I'm like I'm moving in, okay, because they have that big rechargeable table. They I'm like I'm moving in, okay, because they have that big rechargeable table. They have, like you know, 50 sex toys on there. I'm like I need that table. I can't just move in because they have all the fun stuff there.
Speaker 5:I love those lighted display tables. I love getting to go to a hustler's store.
Speaker 5:Shout out hustler, love you guys. And then one other thing that I wanted to touch on also is the number of items that we have that are not body dependent in any kind of way. Right, you, anybody can use an impact toy, so we have and slappers, and all that for everybody. This is the um edge silicone impression paddles if you can see that, this is going to leave the word mine for a really long time and it has an insertable handle. But but we love sensory items, feather ticklers, like a billion and one things.
Speaker 5:But in the new collection in the Velvet Noir, these silicone nipple suckers are so nice for me because my boobs are very big and my nipples are pretty flat, like I don't get a lot of height to them, so a lot of nipple clamps don't stay. They're not really like super comfortable. This is just a squeezy ball suction that just pops right on If you have flat or inverted nipples or if your nipples face the floor, pointing downward right Same same. These are really really great for that and these are like the softest, silkiest silicone. They're so comfortable and so nice to put on and they're so pretty. It's like this marbly, black and gray and they're absolutely gorgeous. So I think for those of us with those meatier chest areas like these are really great. As opposed to like your classic kind of alligator style clip, these can be a little more inclusive plus, those alligator clip ones can can be kind of painful, like you know.
Speaker 4:It looks like the idea of the nice section would be like you're getting some contrast, you're getting some, you know, blood flow to that area, but it's not like uh, yeah, yeah agreed, agreed.
Speaker 3:And you know everybody has nipples, all of us. Equal opportunity. We can. Those can be used for anybody, any gender, any whatever.
Speaker 5:Exactly in the well, the alligator stock clips can be used below the waist too. Yes, they can. Friendly reminder that you've got lots of things that you can squeeze. Look um, these are actually super fun. Fun for just like tagging on a clit, or yeah, there are lots of possibilities.
Speaker 3:Are you all watching Dying for Sex on Hulu?
Speaker 5:Not yet I saw the. That's the. Michelle Williams is her name.
Speaker 3:Yeah, some really fun BDSM, sexual exploration, fun stuff. But one of my favorite scenes is when she kicks her partner in the balls. He loves it, he loves it, like that's right Patriarchy, fuck you.
Speaker 3:That's right, it's really good, I haven't watched the last episode. Also, there's a podcast that goes along with it too. So yeah, nice, everybody in that show is you know they're smaller bod too. So, but yeah, she's, you know, everybody in that show is. You know they're smaller bodied. So no really fat representation, but I love the BDSM representation, and you know it's all about friendships and stuff like that. So, rin, personal question Are you single?
Speaker 5:No.
Speaker 3:I am not.
Speaker 5:I am. We are poly, so I am married. I've been with my husband 21 years. I've been with my partner for seven years, so we're I'm very into the long term. I love us. I love a long-term relationship. Just but it, you know, it works for us and we've been doing it for a long time.
Speaker 3:It works for me and my partner too. Yeah, all of us.
Speaker 5:Nice.
Speaker 3:I always have a long time Roach and me and my partner too.
Speaker 5:Yeah, all of us Nice. I always have a single stare yeah, I don't really have time to train somebody new to deal with all this. I'm being totally honest. I always say I'm always open to a possibility, but I'm almost never looking. I'm not seeking additional partners. But that's the beauty of poly, right, when those things happen and sometimes that like lightning strikes and I have that opportunity to pursue that.
Speaker 3:So I found a new website called thruple. Okay, we're looking for a third, but not necessarily polyamory, but maybe, you know, there's definitely a possibility. Depends on what you're looking for. But yeah, it's looks really fascinating. It looks like there's a lot of promise there. I think there are probably some unicorn hunting stuff going on there too, my guess, just because everything turns into that, but it seems like people are pretty sincere on there so far. Of course, being from the Bay Area, there's a lot more people on there from this area, because we just see a lot of people and a lot of open-minded people here.
Speaker 5:Yeah, unicorn money and that's such a huge thing too, and I think, do you feel like that as fat people, that we see that more than maybe smaller? I feel like every fat person I know has been at least attempted to, to been like, to be recruited into, like somebody is like here to form monogamous situation, and I I don't know what that crossover is.
Speaker 4:I think that's interesting though yeah, well, I think probably probably like there's an idea of it being less threatening when it's a fat-bodied person, because then it's like, oh well, maybe you're more open or maybe you're more, I mean could be like desperate, you know, like that kind of bullshit. But I think that, yeah, there's definitely some psychology behind it.
Speaker 5:Yeah, that's fine.
Speaker 3:Maybe the female partner doesn't feel threatened. Could be it's sad to think, but possibly. But yeah, also don't underestimate me, not that I want to tell anybody's husbands or partners, but yeah, all those things need to just go out the window. They're so, so old fashioned.
Speaker 5:I agree, I agree, I agree Well, and I think too that it might be just that there is like a high representation of fat people in non-monogamy in general, because I think that we have had to learn to love ourselves and to love other people differently than others maybe have.
Speaker 5:We have had to accept things about ourselves and seek validation and seek I don't want to say where we can get it, but we have to cast a wider net to get that and I think that has maybe helped us to become more open to what the possibilities of love and connection can be. And so it doesn't have to be like I don't have to rely on this one person for every single thing that I need forever, like I can you know I can be mad at them and still like get laid and not like not have to, like put aside that I'm mad or you know, and it's not even just like a one-for-one replacement, but there's just so many ways you can be fulfilled and one person can could never be that. But I think that we do have maybe a skewed representation of of fat people in non-monogamy because we are willing to accept and to seek out love and affection in non-traditional ways.
Speaker 3:Yeah, maybe we're more open-minded or open-hearted. I know I am.
Speaker 4:And we talked about how there's so many different bodied and fat-bodied folk in kink community. I mean, I think that those do. It's another Venn diagram you know of, like those two overlap. You're going to see that a bit more accepted in that community.
Speaker 3:I interrupted you when you were talking about products and stuff. Were there other items that you wanted us to know about that work well for fat babes?
Speaker 5:Oh no, I think I got it. Oh, the Pivot Deluxe Door Jam Sex Sling. So we have a couple the Door Jam, the Door Jam Sex Sling. Those are really easy to install. They're just like weighted straps that go over your door, your solid core door.
Speaker 5:okay, I want to be totally clear don't put it over your hollow landlord special bedroom door. Any, I don't care how much you weigh, don't do that um, but if you put that over a solid core door that is going to hold up to 325 pounds. Oh, we have a couple versions of that door.
Speaker 5:Jam sex sling through different parts of our collections, but specifically the pivot deluxe version has an extra wide, extra comfy seat. Um, that has extra uh cross strap support underneath um, and it has those nice roomy thigh straps and literally you can put that up on the door and you can do stuff that, like I didn't think my body could do. Um, truly like, you can like Superman, like in that thing if you get on your belly and like, put your feet against the door and like, there's so many cool things you can do in that and it is so comfortable. Um, and you know, taking sex vertical can just add in a new fun element to that and that, um, I think those are great on like if to travel with, like a hotel bathroom door is perfect for those hotel doors are sturdy too those good fire doors.
Speaker 3:I never would have thought those were okay, okay for fat babes. I I just thought I always just say no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. But so it's like 325, you said Yep, yep. How precise does this have to be the weight?
Speaker 5:You know, once you take it home, keep your safety in mind. But absolutely I encourage exploration, I encourage you know trying stuff out, but you know safety first. I'm right about 300 and I've had no kind of issue whatsoever with that. And um, yeah, I don't. As long as you're on that on a good door, I don't think you're gonna take it down. I really don't it's so nice and sturdy no hollow but the straps are nice and wide, like double, triple, quadruple, stitched like super, super sturdy, so lots of room for for playing it.
Speaker 4:I remember seeing the box, uh, and was just like what? Like there's a possibility of being fat and having the door jam, you know, kind of sex with the the sling, and I'm like what? This is so cool.
Speaker 5:So, yeah, that's, that's for me I idea it's so adjustable so you can get the height like exactly where you want it, so you can have, like, your partner standing in front of you. Um, or yeah, there's just a billion and one super fun ways to use that. But yeah, that's the pivot deluxe door jam sexling and I love it that approved big sexy approved.
Speaker 3:We should come with a little diagram with people can put on their products. Big Sexy tested. Big Sexy approved.
Speaker 5:I love that I would be honored to carry that endorsement.
Speaker 3:Thank you for telling us about that, because I had no. Like I said, I've never, ever gone near one of those, but now I might. So, for those of you who are paying attention, we have that code Sportsheetscom BigSexy20. It'll get you 20 off and hey, we have all kinds of fun things we can try. Is there anything else that we missed that we should talk about sports sheets or, in general, fat babes? What is there anything we didn't think of tonight? Murph?
Speaker 4:not that I can think of um. You know, I think. Go check out the website, check out the different product lines, because there's some that are specific to like bdsm in that community. There's some that um specific to BDSM and that community. There's some that for Pivot, the abled bodies and different body types. I saw that there was a sex and mischief one. There's so much stuff to look at, so go check it out. I bet you'll find something that interests you.
Speaker 3:All right. Well, I'm going to wrap this up for tonight. This was so much fun. Ryn, I love talking with you. We would love to have you on again and again and again. We could talk about all kinds of fun stuff with sex and fat babes. And I just adore sports sheets and I always have. I got into this industry about 2003. And then I knew about the doggy style strap, probably right when it first came out, and I'm just so grateful to sports sheets. Fault of sports, she's in. Please pass the word along to how grateful we are and I know my community is very grateful and anyway. So thank you again. I really appreciate you and really appreciate the discount code BigSexy20. And just to wrap it up, tonight we do have some listener feedback or a listener question. And, murph, do you have that?
Speaker 4:in front of you, I do so. We got a voicemail from Megan and she was looking for information on play parties for fat people. She's interested in things that don't maybe fetishize fat folks, so that kind of where you would get information or where you would be introduced to play.
Speaker 3:Do you have any ideas for her?
Speaker 4:Murph, I think that probably your best bet is to start out in the kink community, so getting on like FetLife and then looking into maybe play parties in your area. Sometimes there are specific groups, often in the sex world. They don't use like fat or plus size, they use the term BBW. So you'll see that often and that might be something you want to search through. But you do have to be mindful, when it comes to BBW, that sometimes there is some fetishized stuff in there. So just be particular, read like, look at, you know, look at the content that's that's being shared there, um, or maybe the group rules or something like that.
Speaker 4:The other thing I could think of is that, um, I'll join, like kink community posts on facebook. So sometimes there's um, you know, there's some specific for fat bodies, um, I don't know if they're like specific to where you're living. There might be a separate community there, but you can at least like get involved in the community and then ask those questions and maybe somebody there will have more information or be more specific to your area or your state. But that would be where, I would say, to start out at.
Speaker 3:That's a great question, Megan, Really good. Thank you, Regan Ryn. Do you have any ideas for her?
Speaker 5:That's absolutely where I was going to go and, you know, get involved with your local groups. Vetlife is a great resource. Reddit can be a good resource. Any of those things. Take them absolutely with a grain of salt. Do what you can to make connections with people that are actually attending these events to get honest feedback. Sometimes promoters will say, you know, we don't encourage this type of activity, but then actually that type of activity is happening. So, yeah, I think becoming active in your community where you can, I think that's really going to help you find space to do what you want to do, without facing things that you're not interested in necessarily.
Speaker 3:I think there's a couple of things maybe not everybody knows about ENM, which is called ethical non-monogamy. Then there are non-conforming relationships and then often here in the Bay Area those people start by having a munch, is what they call it. So those might be some search terms that also Megan can use to see what she can find in her area.
Speaker 4:Yeah, and munch is M-U-N-C-H. When I heard that word I was like what is happening? And then realized, oh, that's like they get together at a neutral place and hang out and it's just getting to know you icebreaker kind of stuff in a non-kink or non-sexual related space.
Speaker 3:We talked about this a few times now on previous episodes. But there are a lot of fake in the kink world that a lot of times they'll use that word in their dating profiles and stuff, but they're not truly a dom. A dom's responsibility is to always make sure the submissive is cared for and taken care of and gets their aftercare. And it's not just like I'm dom, I can whatever, whatever those dudes think. But so if you are born female or you identify as a femme, just you got to be aware of those creepy people, cause just like every community has the creeps, unfortunately.
Speaker 4:Yeah, and be specific in your profile. Like if you are not into feeding, if you're not into um, you know fat being fetishized in any way. Like make that clear on your profile so that if somebody is looking for that or approaching they're going to be like oh no, never mind. That community is a very honest, transparent community. So, entering that space, you need to explain what your boundaries are and if that's a no-go like I don't want to be involved in any kind of party or where that's happening, be explicit.
Speaker 3:Good stuff, thank you. So, murph, do you want to tell everybody how to find Big Sexy Chat all over the socials? Well wait, we have to ask Wren our most important question. I forgot about the question.
Speaker 4:Yes. So, Wren, tell us what is your favorite sex toy or sexual aid.
Speaker 5:Oh that's a really good question.
Speaker 5:I like I said before, I love the Sports Sheets, pivot, convertible toy mount and then, as far as things that we don't make, I was recently the lucky recipient of a Womanizer Pulse toy and that was a little bit of a game changer. That, um, that pulse in it. I thought that I needed, like the jackhammer bullets, you know, like, the really like, and, and I've had some that were super powerful. I've had ones that were super powerful that I have really, really loved, and I was really reticent about air pulse and thinking that I don't think that's even going to be enough, that's not even going to get there. And I will tell you what that is different. It is deeper and when you can get the vibration going through like your entire vulva, it is a totally different experience. Yes, yes, yes, all day long, yes.
Speaker 3:Fantastic Game changer.
Speaker 4:Especially maybe pairing the two together. Together, the womanizer with the I love a mix and match moment if you can put those two things together and get you know the best of your life, like go for it.
Speaker 5:With everything happening right now, I'm like lean in yes, find that pleasure, find, find that moment, that joy that like that you, that joy that you time, that partner time, whatever you can do to find some kind of joy, or just a quick orgasm just to shut out this world that we're living in. Whatever you can find, mix and match, layer the things, take yourself on a date yes.
Speaker 3:Yeah, one of my new shirts says fat plus joy equals resistance. I'm not letting that fucker take my joy, so I'm making sure my fat ass self is having lots of joy, despite whatever is on the news. I need that shirt. Yeah, fat plus joy equals resistance. Thank you. If you want to email us, our is bigsexychatpod at gmailcom. Murph.
Speaker 4:You can find us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, at Big Sexy Chat. That's it, yeah. And then, Wren, do you have any socials you want to share with us? We know sportsheetscom, but what other info when can they find either you, if you're interested, or Sports Sheets?
Speaker 5:on socials. You can find us on Instagram and on Sports Sheets and Sports Sheets International and on YouTube at Sports Sheets Official. Most of that content is largely geared toward retailers, but there's a lot of great information and some show and tells on how the products work, and you can see my adorable face showing a whole bunch of stuff off.
Speaker 3:Wonderful. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you a million times. All right, y'all, I'm going to just go ahead and sign off now. See you later. Alligator.
Speaker 5:After a while crocodile Best wishes goldfishes.
